Friday, September 21, 2012

Madeline @ Mutant Supermodel is posting a series on single parents. She asked me if I'd contribute my story, including "3 things I've learned since becoming a single parent". 

So if you want to read my (brief) story and my personal discoveries on this crappy road, you can find that HERE. With a picture too, woo hoo

Also, I feel compelled to mention that my viewpoint may be different from others, because I don't come from a place of striving to make everyone view my family as "just as whole" as the 2-parent homes. I am not insulted if you think we are handicapped. Because we are.

I believe God can overcome any handicap, however. Someday when my sons fall in love, I want those women to be totally blessed by it. Don't you? If you're raising a little girl, don't you want her to marry a man who is wise, mature, and full of love for others?
I think we all want that for our daughters and sons.

On the good days I know that it's all going to be okay & I feel hopeful. On the really hard days I've cried for the heartache my kids have had to endure at such a young age and I've been angry and told God that I am

DONE!

AND I WANT TO BREAK UP!

JUST LEAVE ME HERE IN THIS PILE BECAUSE I'M TOO SICK AND TIRED TO GO ON! FIND SOMEBODY ELSE TO REFLECT ALL YOUR GLORY AND AWESOMENESS CUZ THIS BLOWS!

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(I mean after the beach house is done, 'kay?)
Posted by Katy On 8:42 AM 6 comments

6 comments :

  1. Katy, I just read your single mom piece, you are an excellent writer! I had a 6 year old and almost 3 year old when my husband decided to leave, but I had been working and contributing 1/2 of our household income all along so I was OK financially. You are soooo right--at first I didn't think I'd be able to survive, little did I realize that I would not only survive, but thrive! I am remarried now and a stepmom and always wonder what my life would be like if I hadn't remarried, or was still married to my first husband, or if I stayed single. I'm always second guessing if I made the best choices for my kids.

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  2. Dear Kati,
    I had my son 1yr old wCF when my ex decided to leave us. That was 23 years ago. It was scary but I (we :)) made it!. Today he is 24 and shares his life with his girlfriend and enjoys good health (!!). Next year will get his BA diploma :)
    The divorce can be a scary episode in our lifes but with will and more important, a smile on your face in spite of the thunderstorm you may be walking thru any obstacles can be overcome :)

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  3. Thanks for sharing your piece with me and linking to me. Your viewpoint IS different from others and that's what I find to be important in this project. Single Parents don't come in a one size fits all variety no matter how much that is pushed forward. I want to show all the differences that exist among this group that is often portrayed in a pretty nasty light. And I want to show the different ways these things happen. And the different ways we cope. And the different paths they travel. They are all beautiful stories, every one.

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  4. sweet photo of you guys! it's like taking the path back to yourself....and for me, when i got divorced i didn't realize just far from the path of me i had strayed. your resilience is contagious, so cough and sneeze it all over every chance you get. :)

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  5. ^--- toomuchaugust, that's hilarious image you just put in my head.

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  6. Katy, Your kids don't come from a broken home. You just got rid of the broken part. Now you are fixed & whole & leaner & better.

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